It is important to understand the difference between two kinds of relative clauses.
Defining relative (DR) clauses qualify a noun, and tell us exactly which person or thing is being referred to.
She likes people who tell lies are odious.A corkscrew is a thing you use to open a bottle of wine.Non-defining relative (NDR) clauses add secondary information to a sentence, almost as an afterthought.
My friend Andrew, who is Scottish, plays the bagpipes.Politicians, who tell lies, are odious.DR clauses are much more common in spoken language, and NDR clauses are more common in written language. In spoken language, we tend to avoid NDR clauses.
| Person | Thing | |
|---|---|---|
| Subject | who (that) | that (which) |
| Object | ( ) (that) | ( ) (that) |
Which can be used in NDR clauses to refer to the whole of the previous sentence or idea.
She arrived on time, which amazed everybody.Whose can be used in both DR and NDR clauses.
That's the woman whose son was killed. My grandad, whose eyesight is terrible, still drives.What is used in DR clauses to mean 'the thing that'.
Has she told you what's worrying her? What I need to know is where we're meeting.